One Flesh


By Carolyn Dale Newell

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,

And the two shall become one flesh.”

Eph. 5:31 NKJV

God created marriage to reflect the unity of the church and Christ. The church is the body with Christ as the head. We are members “of His flesh and of His bones” (Eph. 5:30). Therefore, Husbands and wives are one flesh.

Oneness becomes difficult in a society consumed with self. Satan seeks to destroy marriages in many ways. One of his tactics is divide and conquer. It is very interesting that Paul wrote about the believers armor immediately after the section on marriage in Ephesians. We certainly need to defend our marriages from the enemy’s attacks.

How can we remain as one when so many forces seek to pull us apart? The Biblical commands concerning marriage are designed by God to keep us united.

First, wives are submissive to their own husbands, just like the church obeys Christ (Eph. 5:22-24). Sadly, this verse has been used to mistreat and abuse women because it is not followed up by the command for husbands.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church” (Eph. 5:25). Paul expands on this by explaining that husbands ought to nourish and cherish their wives just as they would care for themselves (Eph. 5:29). When husbands sacrificially love their wives, it is easy for the wife to be submissive.

We are two flawed humans trying to live in a flawless marriage. That doesn’t work without compromise. When problems arise, and they will, we must seek to settle them with God’s direction. It is only through God’s power that we can be the husbands and wives that He wants us to be. Our desire is to be one flesh, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part.

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for my spouse and our marriage. Guard it against anything that could damage it. Help me be the best wife/husband I can be. Draw us closer to You. Amen.


Read Eph. 5:22-32.


Ladies, what is one selfless act you can do for your husband this week? Think of something that will really make him happy. It could be a large home-cooked meal or a special dessert. Husbands, what is one way you can make a sacrifice for your wife this week?

Copyright 2016 Carolyn Dale Newell.


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